Professional Training


Susan Anderson psychotherapist and author, trains professionals in Outer Child / Abandonment Recovery techniques. The training is experiential: You learn by performing exercises and sharing feedback within a supportive group setting. (See Susan's Workshop Schedule

Susan creates a safe, open, working, life-changing process within the group. Through training you:

Target Outer Child patterns of self sabotage. Outer Child is an overarching concept that encompasses defense mechanisms, character traits, knee-jerk reactions, habits and compulsions – all of your maladaptive behaviors.

      • Identify emotional triggers.

      • Connect dots between automatic defenses and primal abandonment fear.

      • Learn exercises that redirect attachment energy toward learning healthy new “automatic” behaviors.

      • Practice using new power tools to break through obstacles and propel you forward.

Abandonment component:

Through advanced training you learn to:

      • Discern acute abandonment crisis from chronic patterns such as mood or anxiety disorders, as well as long standing outer child patterns of self-sabotage.

      • Distinguish normal (albeit intense) abandonment grief from the onset of major depression

      • Identify acute symptoms of the emotional crisis of abandonment, including:

           Re-emerging symbiotic feelings

           Increased risk-taking

           Neglected self-care




          Need to self-medicate

          Borderline regression and other forms of acting out

     • Identify chronic (versus acute) symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment. In "Journey from Abandonment to Healing (pages 41-42)" I outline a complete list of abandonment’s posttraumatic symptoms, which comprise what I have come to call the “outer child syndrome.”

           Outer Child Post Traumatic Syndrome:

           Difficulty forming primary relationships


           Poor self-image



           Chronic insecurity.

      • Help clients work through tendency to get caught up in outer child patterns such as abandoholism or abandophobism, or stuck in one the five stages of abandonment grief.

     • Deal with the intense transference that our clients exhibit during their abandonment crises including (when their Outer Children are most triggered):

           Over-dependence upon therapist


           Missing appointments

           Unrealistic expectations toward therapeutic process, etc.

     • Discern client’s tendency to temporarily revert to default defenses, i.e. becoming over-controlling toward the abandoner, punitive, self-abdicating, and outer child maneuvers.

     * Help the still fragile, narcissistically injured abandonment survivor move beyond protest, blame, self-denial, and acting out, and on toward emotional self-reliance, behavioral change, and increased capacity for love.

     * Learn effective new tools experientially within the safety and open sharing of a supportive group process.